I think we have everything wrong about life

Why ‘success’ is backwards. What I’m learning about slowing down.

Chloé Garnham
3 min readNov 14, 2023
Yayan Sopian

There’s an intersection near my home that I walk through first thing every morning. And on the Gold Coast, at 5:30, there are already plenty of cars on the road — we’re a town of early risers and everyone likes to get going. Whether that’s heading off for a sunrise surf, a run, a nature hike, or off to work.

As the cars sped through the intersection on a recent morning and I waited to cross, I had the thought that the earth was under so much pressure.

There are 8 billion people who all have unique desires to suit their individual needs. And at this intersection, there were just a few of those people, wanting to get where they were going — quickly.

With every person focused on their own version of success, worried about potential failure, and hoping for a happy future, there is so much that the earth is asked to provide.

Society’s story of success is flawed

Society has well-defined stories about success. It’s about the new car, the big house, the happy family, and the thin body. Ideally, riches and some kind of achievement are important too. Only then could one think of themselves as being ‘successful’.

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Chloé Garnham

Personal development, philosophy, books, & mindfulness. An imperfect person on a journey to a more peaceful life. wisewordsbychloe.substack.com/